‘American Horror Story’ Actress Sarah Paulson: ‘I Don’t Have to Give Everything to Everyone’
Actress Sarah Paulson has dated both men and women and doesn’t care what you think about it.
TheAmerican Horror Storyactress spoke to PrideSource about how she won’t be labeling her sexuality.
Paulson accidentally came out by giving her then-girlfriend Cherry Jones a kiss after she won a Tony Award in 2005.
“I was very young, and I was in love,” she said. “It was the reality of the person I was with. She just won a Tony Award – I’m not going to pat her on the back, give her a big thumbs up and say, ‘Go up there and get your award, sweetie.’ It was not really a conscious thought. I didn’t think of what the implications were gonna be. I just did what was true and honest to me in that moment.”
However, not much is known about the actress’s life outside of the screen, and she plans to keep it that way.
“I do think it’s important [to put your career before your personal life], and I know that Matt Damon got a terrible amount of flack for the way he phrased those things, but the sentiment is still true: My personal life…I’m not going to hide it from you, but I also don’t want you to think about that before you think about the character I’m playing. And so I want that to be the paramount importance – it’s of paramount importance to me that you believe the story I’m trying to be part of telling you, and if my personal life is going to get in the way of that, I don’t like that at all,” she said.
While Paulson says she doesn’t have a strategy to separate the two, she has learned through person experience.
“At the end of the day, I put enough of my interior life on camera when I’m acting by giving as much of myself as I possibly can – I don’t have to give everything to everyone,” she said.
Paulson, who is currently playing an 80s-inspired druggie inAmerican Horror Story, currently stars as Cate Blanchett’s former flame Abby in the lesbian love story, Carol.
When asked if working on a movie about repressed sexuality made her reflect on her own sexuality, Paulson said that at the end of the day, “love is love.”
“The end,” she said. “It sounds chiche, but I think most cliches are cliches because they’re very, very true. And it’s very interesting because I’ve been with men and women, and [the movie] puts a very fine point on that truth, which is that it’s very personal and that love is love, and sometimes you love a person you weren’t expecting to love – and how glorious is that?”
Since coming out in 2005 on accident, Paulson has managed to escape becoming a voice for the LGBT community because, she says, she refuses to give any kind of label just to satisfy what people need.
“All I can say is, I’ve done both, and I don’t let either experience define me,” she said. “I don’t let having been with a man make me think I am heterosexual, or make me want to call myself that, because I know I have been attracted to women – I have lived with women. So, for me, I’m not looking to define myself, and I’m sorry if that is something that is seen as a rejection of or an unwillingness to embrace [my sexuality] in a public way, but it’s simply not. It’s simply what’s true for me, and that’s all I can speak to.”
While Paulson said she sometimes feels LGBT celebrities have pressure to be activists and she understands that, she said her reality is different than your reality.
“I have had different experiences,” Paulson said. “I can meet a man tomorrow and fall in love with him and marry him and I wouldn’t discount any of the experiences that I’ve had with women, or vice versa. I just don’t think anyone is in a position to dictate what that is for me. I understand why the call is what the call is, and that’s also why I don’t hide it. I don’t pretend it’s not true.